5 Things Learned From Bisexual Dating

A Bisexual men was a true "50-50" bi guy, a lover of men and women, not an “attention-seeker” or a "halfway-there gay man" or any of the ridiculous and offensive claims people make about bisexuals. And most important:

1.A bisexual was not a cheater. Bi people are not predisposed to infidelity. 

Sure, Bisexual men may have technically had more options than straight ones — he was drawn to men and women. While that didn’t make them any more promiscuous or untrustworthy. The reality was far from it: a bisexual man was unbearably monogamous and loyal to a fault.This led to his heartache, since he was trying to date one, a gay guy who was not monogamously inclined (and still isn’t), a guy who was too immature to say, “Hey, I’m not really looking for a relationship.”

This seems basic, but it's unfortunately still necessary to note in an ongoing effort to counteract this bizarre notion that someone who is attracted to multiple genders will inevitably miss having sex with people of the gender they’re not sleeping with.

2.Yes, bisexuals truly were attracted to both men and women. Bisexuality is real. Bisexuals really exist.

For bisexuals, as well as for many others, them claim to bisexuality wasn’t a transitional phase or halfway point between straight and gay. Many gay guys (myself included) claim to be bisexual as a sort of "baby step" out of the closet. We’re too scared to swing the door all the way open with a fabulous "We're here!"

But unfortunately for all the other bisexual men and women out there, the straight and gay people who use a bisexual identity as a "halfway house" contribute to the widespread negative notion that anyone who identifies as bi is actually a flimsy, half-hearted gay man or lesbian. It's one reason why so many bisexuals feel so excluded from the LGBT movement. 

Even if there are some self-identified bisexuals who are romantically interested in one gender and sexually attracted to another,and even if some self-identified bisexuals are just questioning and experimenting.

3.You can’t get nervous when they watch porn.

First of all, porn is fantasy. The action of watching doesn't necessarily translate to “going to go out and do it later.”nd even if someone (of any orientation) does want to go out and meet that need, if they’re a good partner, they will talk to you about it first and see what you're willing to accomodate.

4.Although differences can be deal-breakers, a difference in sexual orientation doesn't need to be. 

Not even close. This misconception started with Freud, was bolstered by Kinsey, and now seems to be spread predominantly through Yahoo! forums. However, there are a lot more people acting on bisexual desires than there are who identify as such.While not everyone is bisexual, here's a small smattering of bi celebs who are commonly mistaken or purposefully misconstrued as card-carrying homos and heteros: Sappho (yes, the Greek poster-dyke), Kurt Cobain, James Dean, Ani DiFranco, Walt Whitman, Anais Nin, Frida Kahlo, Eleanor Roosevelt, Alexander the Great, Tchaikovsky, Michael Stipe, Lord Byron, Emily Dickinson, Andy Dick, Herman Melville, Eve Ensler, Judy Garland, Georgia O'Keeffe (who was Frida's lover for a time), Marlon Brando, Cary Grant, Billie Holiday, Angelina Jolie, Janis Joplin, David Bowie, Jack Kerouac, Kristanna Loken (from Terminator 3 and the one who burned Shane's house down in Season 4 of The L Word), Madonna, Elton John, Amanda Palmer (from the Dresden Dolls), Cole Porter, Anthony Rapp (Rent), Virginia Woolf, Patti Smith, Mick Jagger and on and on. (To see a more complete list of bi celebs, check out the Wikipedia page.)

5.Bisexuals get hurt just as much as the rest of us.

As a bisexual, he would rebound fast with a girl or hit his (larger) playing field with a vengeance. But really, those would just be excuses. He was hurt because he was in love. His bisexuality would be no threat to us.

So gay men, lesbians, and straight people: don’t fear dating a bisexual person. Drop the insecurity and the prejudice. If they’re a good person, then they’ll be good to you, and if they’re not, then they won’t. If you’re lucky, you’ll have a relationship with someone who loves you a lot and puts you first. >>>>>Date Now

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